Why Should I Go To Premarital Therapy?

When you’re planning a wedding, there is no shortage of things to think about.

The venue. The honeymoon. The seating chart. All of it!

But, within everything written on the to-do list, we often forget a big part. 

The relationship!

Beyond the excitement of planning the wedding, this season of life is also adding a layer of transition to your relationship. This can be both exciting, but also challenging. There may be topics that need more support for building your life together included but not limited to:

• Family Building

• Finances

• Future Goals

• Boundaries

• Religious/Spiritual Values

• Sex & Intimacy

• And more!

Premarital Therapy offers a safe place, just between you and your partner, to discuss these topics in a non-biased environment, with the support of a licensed therapist. It gives couples an opportunity to talk about the things that can sometimes get pushed aside during an exciting and busy season of life. It offers a set time to prioritize your relationship, and ensure that you are working as a team moving forward. 

Why Should We Go To Premarital Therapy?

1. You can talk about the conversations that are easy to avoid

2. You can better understand your relationship patterns

3. You can learn how to navigate conflict together

4. You can talk about expectations for marriage

5. You can better understand each other's needs

The best part? You don't have to have every answer before you begin. The goal can simply be learning how to have these conversations together.

Is Premarital Therapy Only for Couples Who Are Struggling?

The answer is no. Premarital Counseling is oftentimes, the opposite.

Going to premarital therapy often symbolizes the commitment you have to your relationship, and the intentionality of preparing for your future life together, having a strong foundation together.

Do you want to know a little secret? Premarital Therapy also can be FUN. It oftentimes becomes the weekly date night activity, paired with a movie or dinner. You often leave the session with "homework", which is basically fun worksheets/activities/games you get to do with your partner that not only help your relationship for the future, but can also help your relationship in the present, giving you intentional time to continue learning about your partner. Who knows? Maybe you'll end up learning a hidden fun fact or story about your partner that you never knew.

Can a Premarital Workbook Help Couples Prepare for Marriage?

Premarital counseling isn't the only way to intentionally prepare for marriage. For couples who want to start these conversations together, we also created Our Premarital Workbook.

Designed by our therapist-led team, the premarital workbook gives couples a chance to explore important topics, strengthen their connection, and better understand each other as they prepare for marriage. It can be used together at home, as a starting point for deeper conversations, or alongside premarital therapy.

The premarital workbook covers topics that can be easy to overlook while planning a wedding, giving couples space to slow down and talk about what matters before saying “I do.”

This 114 page premarital workbook is meant to be completed together with your partner. This is not a substitute for premarital counseling but it offers a very thorough dive into what makes a good foundation.

There are pages of education, various activities and exercises to complete, as well as reflection questions to share with one another. As you look on the left, you can see the table of contents.

Want to explore premarital therapy or check out the workbook? We offer premarital therapy at our Colleyville and McKinney offices, as well as virtually, and our workbook is available nationwide for couples looking for a place to start. You can learn more on our website: https://www.thecouchtherapy.org/premarital