For many, preparing for the upcoming holiday focused on love may bring excitement and a flutter of anticipation, while for others, it may feel like a stark contrast. Valentine's Day can be a particularly difficult time for anyone who is grieving the loss of a loved one or going through a challenging period of change in their life. Grief can come in waves of difficulty throughout the year, but holidays often bring an extra layer of pain, leaving us feeling disconnected from those around us.
To help you cope with the grief that may surface on Valentine’s Day, here are some strategies to guide you through the day with more compassion for yourself:
Acknowledge Your Feelings. It sounds simple, doesn't it? But grief is complex, unpredictable, and often muddy. Grief is like the suitcase sitting at the bottom of your bed. Every day, you must carry it with you. Some days it feels like it is filled with rocks, some days it's light as a feather. Allowing yourself the space to notice and process your emotions as they arise can help you move through the pain without suppressing or bottling it up, giving you a better chance to heal in your own time.
Practicing Self-Care. Your body is already doing the heavy lifting by carrying the weight of grief. To honor its effort, it's important to indulge in self-care practices that nurture and replenish you. Whether this is going on a walk, taking a nap, or getting your favorite take out food - offer your body some kindness.
Create a New Tradition. Sometimes, it helps to move away from traditional celebrations. If Valentine's Day is too painful, create new ways to mark the day that feel more authentic to where you are in your healing process. Also, Valentine's Day doesn’t only have to be about romantic love. It can also be an opportunity to honor the relationships that sustain you—whether they’re with family, friends, or even with yourself.
Setting Boundaries. If social media, advertisements, or conversations about love feel overwhelming, it’s okay to distance yourself from them. Consider muting certain accounts or taking a break from social media.
Avoid Comparing to Others. Grief looks different for everyone, especially on holidays. We cannot compare our feelings with those around us because everyone processes their own grief in other ways.
Give Yourself Permission To Not Celebrate. Remember that you don’t have to celebrate Valentine’s Day in the traditional sense. It’s okay to skip the festivities, avoid the pressure of the day, or simply choose to do something quiet and restorative. Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie says it best: "We don't know how we will grieve until we grieve." Give yourself permission to follow your needs for the day as it shows up for you.
Valentine's Day can sometimes feel like a reminder that things are different, and it can stir up feelings of sadness, anger, or even confusion. Your journey is your own, and there is no timelines for when you 'should' be okay. There’s no right or wrong way to navigate the day—just do what feels best for you.
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